Will you be peering around corners to make sure your former love isn't in the hall and avoiding the company picnic for fear your ex will flaunt a new love interest? Before you throw your next promotion to the wind, here are five reasons dating your coworker might not be such a good idea. Reality Unfortunately, this is not a tale by the Brothers Grimm, so you can't count on a happy ending.
And when coworkers eventually find out, you may be the subject of ridicule and suspicion: If you want people to focus on your professional abilities, don't give them reasons to fuel the rumor mill.
It's Not Just About You You may think this is a private affair, but is it really?
Logic tells you your romantic involvement will impact your coworkers directly.
Crispin Porter & Bogusky, a global ad agency with offices in five cities, even offers to pay for the wedding if two employees meet and fall in love at work and agree to get married in one of the offices.website says, “Work is a bad word to explain what we do.
If what you are doing seems like work, you’re either in the wrong industry or you’re not doing it right.” This is a pretty good distillation of how a lot of college-educated, passionate twentysomethings prefer to see their work lives — no matter how grueling the hours are.
You'd like to meet that special someone, but you just don't know where to look. One of you may need to leave the job if things don't work out.
Your heart starts beating faster, and blood rushes to your head. Now you're in a relationship with your subordinate. And what happens when it comes to conducting reviews and disciplining your honey? You'll need a lot of energy and concentrated effort to keep your office romance just between the two of you.
But when you date someone in your office, it can become more and more difficult to leave your relationship drama at home where it belongs. and into the HR department for a talk about the office's dating policy?
But they happen all the time, and when they do, there are three possible outcomes: The relationship turns sour and your reputation and career take a beating; it ends, but you're both mature and cordial and don't let the breakup affect your work; or A survey by Career Builder last year revealed that nearly 40% of employees admitted to having a romantic relationship with a coworker, and almost one-third of office relationships result in marriage. We are getting married in two months.) It's up to you to figure out whether pursuing an office relationship is worth the possible consequences, good and bad. My situation was unique because we were already a couple before we started working together — but generally that isn't the case, and Lynn Taylor, a national workplace expert and the author of "Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant: How to Manage Childish Boss Behavior and Thrive in Your Job," suggests you try being friends in-and-outside the office before you make any moves.
My answer to all three: "Nope — because we followed the rules." The truth is, office romances are tricky and generally not recommended.
, Barnes & Noble was so offended that someone would actively encourage co-worker hookups that it initially refused to stock the book.
(It later reversed the decision.) Even then, though, surveys showed half of us have had an office fling; and today, a whopping The shameful holiday-party hookup is no longer the primary association with intra-office romance. In some industries, the open business and romantic partnership is even I concede that meeting someone at work makes logical sense.
Dating a co-worker can lead to long-lasting love but only if you proceed wisely and with care.