Also, she is an Ni dom, so you should try using more Ne with her, they will listen to Ne before listening to your Ti. We dated for 8 years before getting married 11 years ago, so we've been together a long time, and we are one of the happiest, most compatible couples I know.
As I have previously explained, since Ni is a Perceiving function, INTJs are best understood as dominant Perceivers.
Not sure if this is the appropriate forum to ask, but here goes... Don't ask hard questions before coffee in the morning. All that stuff about ideal pairings is only statistical, but when you talk about individuals it doesn't really apply. Well, I had read somewhere, I can't remember where, that INTJ men are good for INTP women, but not the other way around (INTP man, INTJ woman).
I recently met an interesting INTJ on a dating site and we plan on meeting next week. My husband values loyalty (not a problem for most INTPs), intelligent conversation (likewise), and listening without being judgmental (more of a challenge). I recommend listening to her language very carefully and doing everything you can to be clear in your communications with her. Or at least they don't see it as an exercise to work out ideas. The only reason I can think of is that men are supposed to be more assertive and decisive. (Usually along the lines of exchanging witty insults for 15 minutes straight before one of us runs out. Instead of focusing on correcting the logical inconsistencies in her argument, focus on the perspectives you think she could be missing.
Now let’s take a deeper look into the various dimensions of the mysterious INTJ female’s life.
The INTJ girl’s childhood might appear harsh and difficult.
As INTJs intuitively form impressions about the world, they naturally want to express them via their auxiliary Te.