Finding love is always challenging, but it’s especially hard in a city with tunnel-vision-like focus on appearance for someone who doesn’t match the high standards set for beauty in Los Angeles.LA is the national headquarters for the super-fit and the stunningly beautiful.But with guys, sometimes their online profile will say, “I like a woman who takes care of herself physically, spiritually and mentally”—and “physically” is underlined.And you should see the guys who have the nerve to be so concerned about that!They wanted something honest about being my size and dating in Los Angeles.When they folded, it was returned to me to do as I wish.I have been online dating for about two months and it’s been so-so thus far. I’m 5’3″ and an hourglass-ish size 10, so while I’m not obese, I’m definitely not “athletic and toned.” I chose pictures that I think accurately show this.
If I’m a 5’4” man, I know that it’s going to be hard to get a date if I tell the truth.
D., sociology professor at Lehigh University Jeff, 29, teacher, New York Heather, 30, social worker, New York Diny, 31, student, Massachusetts Let's face it: Weight is a hot button when it comes to dating. Stacy: There is such a weight phobia in this culture!
People are so used to the images on TV and the models in magazines that their perception gets a little skewed.
Heather: In my experience dating as a woman who is not thin, I think guys are more obsessed with weight than women are.
If you look at my dating history, you’d know that I’m not just into looks.
My weapon of choice is Ok Cupid, because the design is great, I love the matching algorithm, and it seems to be the most populated by interesting, thoughtful, attractive people, and is especially dense with nonmonogamous folk.